Good morning Craughers.  It is Friday again.  I have started this intro a few different times already.  With the state of things, it is hard to pretend that surviving a week isn’t a huge feat in either dissociation, naivety, or complete medication.  Or you know, gratitude, right, we have that too.  And that is what Faceless Friday is for… a moment to sit and contemplate what we are grateful for, what has rocked our faces off in the past week. The things, people, places and all the in-between that keep us going.  Welcome back.  This week’s Faceless Friday is a heavy hitter, so get ready.

Acceptance. I am talking about self-acceptance and being accepted as you are by others.  There are layers to this, layers to you, and layers to others.  Some friends will accept deeper layers of you that you thought no one would ever understand.  These people will often see themselves reflected in your darkness and depth and feel the instant relief of “there you are, me too”.  We are the same, I have struggled like you, I understand what doesn’t need words and will hold those things we both don’t speak of as carefully as you do.  I accept you, and honor you and love that you do the same for me.  Others will reflect a different part that maybe someone else doesn’t notice, maybe the gentle playful childlike wonder side that so often is hidden and drowned out by adulthood and obligations.  They see your wonder and magic and help to encourage the child inside to explore, dance, giggle and stretch its little body in joy and amusement.  These people allow for safety in fun and wonder.  Others may have grown with you your entire life and have seen every version of you and loved you through all of them.  They may not completely understand who you are now, but they remain a steadfast reminder of who you overcame, how strong you are and what a force you are. All are important in growth.  All is essential and worthy of time and love.  And when I tell you that it is crucial to foster this acceptance within yourself, for yourself, I mean it with every fiber of my being.  To sit and love who you have been, who you are and who you are becoming is a superpower.  Take the time to appreciate and accept yourself and all your parts, make yourself feel safe in your body.  Being able to do that for myself has been my biggest achievement and rocks my face off. 

Deconstructing/Healing. I have looked at my family of origin wounds a total of one million eight hundred and ninety-two times, so I feel pretty confident in talking about this and want to share for those that are just now starting their healing journey.  Our core wounds are often gifted to us from our families and we carry those out throughout our lives until we face them and heal them.  Often times when this happens we have to get gut wrenchingly real about who our family is and this can be hard as fuck for a lot of people.  It feels like having to grieve people that are often still alive.  You have to grieve who you thought they were, and who you needed them to be.  Then you grieve who you wanted them to be.  And then it really settles into your body who they REALLY are.  And as much as that reality sucks, I am here to tell you there is so much freedom on the other side of that.  Seeing and accepting people for who they are without any more expectations or want is SO fucking freeing that you will feel even more free to be yourself too.  If you are working on this, please keep going, it is so worth it.  Healing rocks all of our faces off. 

Okay Craughers, I know that was a lot for this Friday morning so I will wrap it up! Here is my short list of things that rocked my face off this week: 

Coffee, creamer, my kiddo, Spring Break, figuring out the money situation so the kiddo could have a new game for Spring Break, Iran, showers, warmer weather loading, seeing my plants starting to peek through the soil, needing to mow already, the big old tree still standing, Josie Girl, the growth of the last 8 years, recognizing the growth some people may never achieve, and You dear reader!! Thank you for joining me again this week!! You are so appreciated. 

Much love.