About

Why hello there… and welcome to Craughing.

What is Craughing?

Ever had one of those days where you couldn’t stop laughing? Then you laughed so hard it turned into crying? And you were still laughing? That my friends is called a Craughing moment. Or perhaps you had an awful day? Cried most of the day and then found something that tickled that happy spot in your heart and you started laughing? And you were still crying? Yes, another Craughing moment! In these pages you will find a multitude of my Craughing moments as I navigate this life.

Now about me:

I started Craughing 10 years ago as a Facebook page and it grew into a blog about my life, trials (literally) and tribulations. I quit blogging and writing about six years ago and shut down the Facebook page after I found myself repeating toxic relationships, and continuing to live by default instead of thriving. I also became fully disabled due to degenerative disc disease in my back and found that I needed to stop and really connect with who I am and what I want and need in this life. And then I got into another abusive relationship…because… well… your girl doesn’t learn!

I am proud and so very grateful to say that I have been out of that (and any relationship) now for over three years. I have a beautiful, funny, smart, kind and crazy awesome soon to be 4 year old son and I have a foster niece that lives with me whom is 15. (I will make a post about that.) So, I had a major chunk of my back reconstructed, had a baby, and then gained a full house of children as a single momma and now it is my son, me and my foster niece.

I have so much to tell you all, dear Craughers and not enough space here so please join me in catching up as we explore the last six years and check out all my new posts as they come! Also if you are still on Facebook the Craughing page is back up and running!

More coming soon! Much love!

All love. All Ways. Always.

CraughingGirl

18 thoughts on “About”

  1. I was having such a boring, crappy, depressing day today. Why didn’t you show up sooner?? Thanks for making me smile today.

    Lori K.

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  2. I know how you feel, i went through a similar situation, and am slowly rebuilding my life and picking up the pieces of my life that were shattered by my soon to be ex husband (a heroin addict). He will always be a part of me, but I had to get out before he ruined MY life, as well as already ruining his own. Addiction is a terrible thing to deal with, on both sides, I hope he gets well, but as for me…I just got my own apt, and am starting fresh, with my kitty Leo=)

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  6. I just read your blog “The Shattering” and it made me recall an episode in my life quite similar. I was 23 yrs old, 7 months pregnant with my second child and just had the millionth fight with my then husband about his addiction, inability to keep a job, and total disregard for his family responsibilities. I was in hysterics, crying, ran out the door, ran four streets away to a small park, sat on a swing and sobbed uncontrollably(in the pouring rain). I thought the rain drowned out my sobs, but a nearby neighbor came out, invited me into their home, a complete stranger, to calm down. I sat awhile, then calmly returned home and continued to live in hell, until I got the strength to leave 5 yrs later. I guess something just snapped inside me…thank God for that. I, too, survived, and so did my daughters who are now 37, 33, and 31. Keep on keepin’ on…life will get happy and you will be loved!

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  7. I chose to leave a 28 year marriage that had broken me down to the point of being suicidal. Everything that happened was blamed on me, the bad stuff only, I should clarify. The good stuff never seemed to have anything to do with me, at least I was told this over and over until the reality was so blurred I believed it. I was to blame for my, now ex’s depression. What a surprise it was to me when he went on antidepressants 2 years out. I, the cause of his depression, wasn’t there any more, why was he still depressed? And why didn’t he get help 20 years ago? I wonder to myself why I am writing this, 8 years out and remarried to a wonderful man that treats me like a queen, not even in comparison, just cause he loves me. I think it’s because I hope that some one out there realizes sooner than I did that abuse doesn’t have to be physical to be ‘real’. And to base our self worth on someone else’s opinion of us is doing our psyche a great disservice.

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  8. I just wanted to say, your dog is adorable. I love my dog, dogs are awesome and such blessings. I’ve home through a lot, as you have and I can so identify. I’m glad to have found you & your blog, thanks

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  9. I am glad to come across your blog and facebook. The issue of self worth is what grabbed my attention. Sue… i feel like i could relate to you as well…… still in a marriage of 23 years. Actually was separted for almost 6 years and went back (uh yea, smart move) Always blames the crap on me.. yada yada blah blah…. trying to get out of it but am scared shitless 😛 I am hoping to find encouragement here and know that i am not alone in this.

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    1. When you’re ready to leave you will find a way to do it. I planned for several years putting aside money and supplies (in a storage unit) with the knowledge of a 3 family members. My ex and our marriage counselor thought I’ve never make it on my own. I didn’t do it on my own, I had a wonderful support system and move several hundred miles away. My ex made multiple calls to my sister and mom attempting to extract information. Never one to take no for an answer he kept calling—to no avail. Twenty three years later life is so satisfying. It did take many years to work through the feelings of animosity and fear—some with counseling and some on my own. All my experiences go into making me the person I am today. Too bad I couldn’t arrive here without some of those experiences since it would’ve save pain and expense, but think of the wisdom I’ve gained. I’ve been married for 13 years and the way I approach issues/challenges is diverse–much more mature—-I’ve definitely learned not much in life is worth battling/arguing over. What a different and healthier life I have. Best of luck to you. Be strong, seek support.

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  14. I also come from a line of physical & emotional abuse,the whole dating drug addicts,alcoholics,dysfunctional choices to say the least,took me many years to heal and I still today have things that will remind me of my abuser and I get angry all over again,but life is better today,keep on moving forward.

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  16. Hi,
    I don’t even know what your name is but your blog is wonderful.

    I have nominated you / your blog for the Sunshine Award.
    Thank you for sharing all your thoughts and craughing moments with the world!
    http://www.we-embrace.com/sunshine-award
    Hopefully you’ll have time follow up. Don’t feel obliged though!

    Wish you a most wonderful day!
    Titia

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