I am new to the whole idea of self-worth. I have based my worth on so many different things that it has been a struggle to learn, to even try to accept, that only I can determine what my worth is, or that it has already been predetermined by the Maker, the Universe, by Love and Light.

I have compromised myself in profound ways. I have been ashamed, been broken, and I have been lost beyond recognition.  I have found comfort and attention in shallow ideals, shallow men, and vain attempts at love.  All of these have left me feeling emptier than when I began, and have continued my self-talk loop of questions of my own worth.  If someone does not find me attractive what is the worth quotient of that?  If someone does not want to be my friend how many self worth points is that? If I give myself wholly to someone and they do not understand it, or want it, how many points do I loose in myself worth stockpile? Do I even have a self worth stockpile?

The answer is that I have only recently starting building myself worth stockpile. I have done some amazing things in my life, I will not argue that, but I have done those things for other people. To help others, to make others happy, and sometimes as twisted as it is, to make them like me.  I have done shameful things for the same reasons.  All of these things have never made me feel better for very long.  Maybe for a minute I feel worthy of love, worthy of attention and worthy of acceptance… but these feelings are fleeting when they are based on others.  I have found, or rather am learning, that myself worth needs to be based on my own feelings, needs, desires and goals.

I said “No” the other day to a friend and struggled with it for hours afterwards.  I sought guidance from the scrunchie wielding bad-ass club I am proud to be a part of and this was the response I received: “Every time you say no to something like that it makes you more powerful and your self-worth stock goes up”.  Wow.

You mean… if I do positive things for myself, because I value myself, my value will grow?  Is it really that simple?  I am determined to find out and would like to challenge all of you to do the same.  So, I would like to introduce The Self Worth Action Project (SWAP). Tell me the things you have done throughout the week (and I will share as well) that built up yourself worth stockpile. What negative things have you SWAPped (see what I did there?) for self worth?

Someone wants to see a picture of your boobies and you say no? Cha-Ching self worth in the bank! You refused to drink after a stressful day? Bad-a-bing. You worked out instead of taking a nap, or eating? Self-worth points galore! You took a shower today? You fed yourself well? You said no when you meant no? Yes! Self worth!

Together lets see if we can have a positive idea and definition of self worth  and what it truly means to value yourself

Please contact me through my facebook page, or e-mail me at craughing@ymail.com and share your SWAP story. You can post on the page or message me anonymously. Every week I will compile the stories and add it to our The Self Worth Action Project tab and share on facebook.

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